The Need To Cry For Being Too Strong

Satisfying the need we have to cry is essential to regain the strength that allows us to face the problems of life.

My need to cry is not born out of weakness. Neither of the lack of strength to resist, of the desire to throw away everything that has been achieved so far.

Rather, this predicament stems from how strong we have been and how much we need to break free. For some reason, we still consider the person who cries weak. We even recriminate ourselves when tears arise from circumstances we have had to deal with.

Surely, you have had to endure one difficult situation after another … Be the pillar of the family … Or, always be on your feet even though what you want is to let yourself fall. But what happens when you force yourself to be strong while everything around you falters ?

Even the toughest tree gives way to a tsunami

Now you cry, you vent. It is normal. Even the strongest tree yields to the fury of a tsunami. You are not made of stone. However, you have endured blows from many fronts.

The worst thing you could do would be hold those tears. Swallow them all and pretend you don’t need to take them out. But, you know that sooner or later you will end up crying. As much as you delay that moment, it will come. No one can be strong every day of his life.

Much less when everything around him has turned against him, so he cries. Take out all that anger, that frustration and that fatigue that you carry inside. You will feel much better after doing it. At the end of the day, we all end up giving in to such pressure, like the most robust tree, to which we alluded earlier.

Being resistant is all a responsibility, which must find, however, the channel to be liberated. This too is a question of survival. Accept this and allow yourself to waver from time to time.

The need to cry, the result of stress

The need to cry after periods in which we have endured too much is the result of the stress that we have accumulated. Whether we like it or not, this state accompanies us in many moments and situations in life.

Paradoxically, it always appears when we least need it. Sometimes it encourages us to slow down, stop, and stop carrying too many obligations.

It may help us to understand this feeling to know that stress has three distinct phases. In this way, we can better manage ourselves based on what is happening around us. Let’s see them.

Alarm phase

It is when the flight response is activated, the one in which we are very willing to face danger. At this stage we don’t think; we just act.

Resistance period

If the previous situation persists, we will move on to the so-called “resistance period”. At this stage, we will prepare to face what comes, regardless of the emotional cost that it may entail. We draw strength from where it is needed to stand firm. But, as these forces are exhausted, we end up declining.

Exhaustion

In this third phase, before the situation has become entrenched, the resistance that we oppose to resist the problem is running out. It is, then, when we are one step away from crying. That is to say, of that liberation that allows us to lighten the burden that confronting the problem has given us.

Set limits

In most cases, solving the problems we are faced with is out of hand. What is within our reach is to set limits for ourselves. Think more about ourselves and that we do not force ourselves to offer when we have already tried everything.

• Whether it is because we are mothers, authority figures or because a certain responsibility has been imposed on us, we put countless stones on our backs that end up sinking us.
• We are strong, yes. But, as we have seen, the fortress does not last long. In the end, the stress that we put ourselves through may end up completely weakening us; and it is that we all have the need to cry from time to time.
• We are humans, not machines. We have limits. Therefore, it is important to identify these phases. Thus, we can put a stop to everything that is affecting us.
• Stopping in time will be beneficial. To do this, it is essential to know how far we can go; that is, what are our limits.

Crying will help you

However, there is something even more important that you have to learn to do: accept that you cannot always be that wall where others lean on, that beam that supports everything.

Allow yourself to be weak at times. It is also worth crying, collapsing. Nothing is more human. Only by accepting this will you be able to resurface and take steps to protect yourself. And, above all, that they do not lead you into situations that end up compromising your mental health.

Only you know how far you can go. Avoid emptying yourself completely. Don’t feel guilty if you can’t bear all that weight. Crying will help you regain those strengths that, in the most critical or hopeless moments, you think are lost.